How To Resist The Temptation of Infidelity
Like it or not the temptation of infidelity will at one point or another find you as a man. It doesn’t help much when you famous, rich, handsome, a great conversationalist, intelligent or funny. These qualities once displayed will attract ladies who would be oblivious to the fact that you are wearing a ring like bees to honey. I would argue it's hopeless trying to avoid it, all you can do really is resist this temptation. It doesn’t help much either when the ratio of men guilty of infidelity grows higher by the day.
According to the journal of marital and family therapy
“57% of overall men admit to committing infidelity at some point in their lives, another 22% of married men admitted to having an affair at least once during their marriage”
So how does one resist the temptation of infidelity?
Think About the Consequences
Have you ever felt a strong desire to purchase something and then you realize how broke you will be the rest of the month if you spend above your budget? I have, and it has never left my mood brighter. When you think about the consequences of Infidelity, it has the same effect.
Infidelity is a dark place, one where once ventured into, there is no going back. Think about a broken marriage, think about the guilt, and think about kids involved. That should dull the senses of wanting to explore a sexual fantasy that in the long or short term will result in great fatality.
Invest Your Energy Back Into Your Relationship
While many who seek divorce admit to falling outta love, the majority of men who engage in infidelity are at that point still very much in love with their partner. However, sometimes a little couple quarrel can become a ground to engage in this immoral act. After a day’s argument that wasn’t resolved, you tend to find the freedom and desire to cheat. This is precisely the reason you should invest your energy into your relationship. Apologize when you are at fault and try to see things from your partner’s point of view. You should know the lack of communication is what results in the majority of marital crisis in the first place. So, invest in communicating about your issues, and never brush it under the rug.
Ask yourself what you would gain from cheating
People cheat for different reasons, often times it’s basically for things you could get or already get from your partner.
Penny shared her story on Quora on how her 4-year marriage came to an end after she discovered he had been having an affair. According to her, his reason was simply that his mistress allows him to do all sort of kinky stuff in the bedroom. Although their sex life was boring, he never mentioned or expressed his displeasure or suggested better approaches. Penny confirmed that she would have obliged if he had communicated his needs, instead he sort his gratifications elsewhere.
So, before you make the decision in indulging in that desire, ask yourself what exactly you stand to gain that you don’t already have or couldn’t possibly get with your spouse.
Tell Your Partner you have been thinking about cheating
This is probably a no-brainer but think about it. Having an open conversation about the topic will do either of two things.
· You both figure out how best to end the marriage or
· Come up with a solution together.
If you are both open-minded enough, you could opt for an open relationship or figure out the reason behind your cravings. This will no doubt help you explore new territories as well as spice up your relationship to satisfy your cravings.
